That's just trash. Log in to post comments Printer-friendly version. The origin of the relationship permanently "poisons" the relationship. To begin with a sexual involvement makes the work of psychotherapy or analysis impossible. Setting Boundaries One of the best pieces of advice we can give a health professional when dating a former patient is to set boundaries. Apart from possibly negatively affecting my job and ultimately the public's trust in healthcare professionals, there's also emotional risk involved for both parties. It just isn't.


In fact, health care professionals often have a tougher time finding a significant other than most people. With long hours spent at work, it can be tough to meet people. The American Medical Association has also made a ruling on the ethics of dating a former patient as well. This is a tough line to walk when it comes to dating a former patient. On the other hand, this is the 21 st century, and the blueprint for finding a significant other has gone out the window. Some say that there should be no guidelines or regulations that should prohibit your happiness. Doctors point out that since they make life and death choices every day in their professional lives, they should be trusted to have the wisdom and objectivity to make a decision affecting their personal life too. One of the best pieces of advice we can give a health professional when dating a former patient is to set boundaries. One of the best things you can do is to put some space between your love life and professional life. If you do decide to date a former patient, setting boundaries will ensure that your professional and romantic lives do not negatively affect each other. While you may think that sympathetic hug is okay, some might see this as unwanted or uncomfortable, so make sure you can clearly establish boundaries with current patients. These might be patients who are looking for companionship and could mistake your sincerity for romantic interest. Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Calling Dr.

I am an LPN in Canada working at a mental health facility. I met a patient nearly a year ago whom I had a totally unexpected connection with. It isn't something I was seeking out and never source a million years did it occur to me that something like that would happen. I explained at the time that it was inappropriate and crossing an ethical boundary.

The patient understood. Now, that former patient is doing very well and doesn't have a long standing illness and are well into their recovery. It was a short admission and I would have only been in the circle of care. We have been talking and spending time dating former patients initiated by him and it is obvious that after all this time we would like to be with each other and are meant to be, regardless of the circumstances of how we initially came into contact, so we are now officially dating former patients a relationship.

He is in university with a bright future and such a wonderful and kind person who just had a little episode. He comes from a wonderful family. I'm afraid my co-workers will judge me if they find out I'm dating an ex "mental patient" and that I will be the topic of gossip in the work place. How do I deal with this situation in a professional manner? As far as I can tell, I am doing nothing wrong. A significant amount of time has passed and their is no element of vulnerability.

Jul 7, Nearly a year is nowhere close to a significant amount of time. It just isn't. It's quite likely that your coworkers will question your judgment and professionalism if they find out about your relationship with your ex-patient.

In all honesty it concerns me that you don't see any potential problems with your relationship. Frankly, the professional thing in my opinion would have been to stick with what you originally told your patient; that it was inappropriate and crossing an ethical boundary.

Granted, I don't know the details of your patient's psychiatric history, but I don't see myself ever getting involved with a patient in the scenario you've described. Apart from possibly negatively affecting my job and ultimately the public's trust in healthcare professionals, there's also emotional risk involved for both parties. I suspect this isn't the advice that you were hoping for but I can only call it as I see it.

So, a former mental health patient you took care of less than a year ago figured out your name and how to contact you, you agreed to meet and what appears to be a very short time frame, you decided you were "meant to be"? There are so many red flags. And I think, deep down, you know this is a bad idea or you wouldn't have posted At a minimum, check your employer's policies. I suspect dating former patients is not allowed for a certain period of time.

EllaBella1, BSN. Honestly if you want to make this work I would leave your job and start somewhere new. I don't think it's entirely ethical to date a former patient in the first place, but I for sure would not continue working at the facility at which you met. If you think you're doing nothing wrong, then why are you asking for advice? Some part of you knows that this won't end well, and it's ill advised. I think you should listen to that part of you and move on with your life. IMO, that's in everyone's best interest.

Jul 8, I'm a big advocate for those with mental illnesses, as I have mental illness myself and abhor the associated stigma. Your co-workers will judge you and gossip about you if they find out about this, as well they should. You positive dating sites violating well-established professional and ethical boundaries.

There is no "professional manner" dating former patients which to deal with this, other than to end the relationship. You can say that there is "no element of vulnerability," but that is simply not true. The origin of the relationship permanently "poisons" the relationship. And the fact that you don't feel you are doing anything wrong is a big red flag for me. You express concern about what your coworkers would dating former patients if they knew -- one of the classic "tests" of whether an action may violate professional standards and boundaries is whether you would be willing to do whatever it is in front of your boss or coworkers; if you would not be willing to do it in front of your boss and coworkers, you shouldn't do it at all.

You are acknowledging that you have already "flunked" that test. If this relationship is okay, why would you be concerned about your coworkers finding out about it?? OrganizedChaos, LVN. Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych. I am a "mental patient" myself and can't imagine being in a relationship with one of the nurses who took care of me.

Yes, I know the OP said the former patient initiated it, but it should have been nicely but firmly rejected from the get-go. It crosses professional boundaries in many ways, not the least of which is the inequality of the nurse-patient relationship, in which the nurse has dating former patients least some power over the patient.

It doesn't make a difference if he's been out of the hospital for one year or five, it's still not appropriate. The fact that the OP sees nothing wrong with it raises serious questions about her dating former patients.

But, site roseburg dating sites think just me. I see no policies stating here is an issue. I also had a nursing instructor who married one of her patients! It upsets me that there is a blanket policy on all of this. No authority can dictate my life. As for my professionalism, I am a highly respected nurse in my field and work with great compassion and competency.

The fact that all of you are so disgusted makes me question your stigma. If it was a patient arrived to the ER with a broken arm and the same situation transpired, I doubt you would all have the same take on this.

Right now, I'm saddened to think I work with people such as all of you. Just so you know, no one is "meant to be" with anyone else. That constitutes magical thinking, i. Edited Jul 8, by sarahg88 changed mind on what i wanted to say. For better or worse, the responses that you're getting from this forum will likely be similar to the responses different fossil dating methods get from your coworkers and employer.

That said, since you seem to feel strongly about continuing this relationship, it would probably be in your best interest to get a new job and probably unfriend your current coworkers on Facebook. I haven't worked in Canada, but there are certainly places in the US where this could be considered grounds for termination even if it isn't explicitly spelled out in your policies.

If you were to get fired because your employer views this as an unprofessional relationship which many people do, as evidenced by the opinions of prior postersyou'd have to explain the situation on all future job applications which could seriously hurt your career.

A few of my co workers know and are telling me to not pisces woman a virgo out about it and don't see it as a big deal.

I've also read other threads on here where nurses were dating there current patients and! Which I think it absolutley wrong. I feel like what I do in my personal life is my own business.

I'm getting mixed messages. Edited Jul 8, by sarahg I agree with what others have said about this being an inappropriate relationship, especially since it involves a psych patient. Psych dating former patients can take a very long time to stabilize or resolve, if ever. I'm also familiar with nursing in Canada, and the conservative nature of the various provincial nursing associations. They may be able to provide guidance about your relationship.

I think you inquired about this issue here because in some way you're apprehensive about what you're doing, and you needed assurance. I hope find peace with your decision.

I'm not going to discuss whether I think this is right or wrong. That's on you in the end. I am, however, curious as to how this relationship occurred.

Also, what dx he had. Im a RN at an acute psych inpatient. I, for one, would never allow a personal relationship with a pt or former pt. No matter the circumstances. It's for our own safety. I feel like what you have originally posted left a lot of questions. Well, if the OP's situation is for real, then, pretty much what other posters said: it is ethically wrong. No "but" about it. From how you met to how you re-connect, dating former patients are several danger signs.

Ultimately, OP, the choice is yours. But, keep in mind: you started this thread and people are voicing their opinions along with facts. First, I disagree that in any way it is "right" for your coworkers to judge or gossip about you.

That is just not professional. They may question your professionalism and you may lose some professional respect, but hat is not a blanket excuse dating former patients co-workers to gossip. That's just trash.