Hi Emily, How did your get-together go the other night? Tentative plans mean he would let you know either way. You've both agreed that next Wednesday is the best day, but you haven't chosen the exact time or location. At this stage things should be moving on at a nice clip such that there is zero vagueness or anxiety, and otherwise there should be lots of communication between dates. Another one canceled via text literally 30 min before the date, I was already ready to leave the house. Of course this is all just conjecture, the guy could just be a jerk; but maybe this guy needed for the original letter writer to offer more than a wink and a smile to know how she truly felt about him. He already indicated to her that he wanted to see her on Saturday night.


Recently, I went on an amazing four dates with a guy who was objectively handsome, intelligent three Ivy league degrees , and in a successful, well-paying job. After our fourth date on a Saturday night, he immediately asked for a fifth date though he did not specify when that date would occur. He called once more that week and we talked about how great the fourth date was, but he did not specify plans for a fifth date. Eventually Thursday evening rolled around and I still had not heard from him. I wanted to make plans for Saturday, so I went ahead and did so with some friends. So, should I have made myself more available to him? Does mirroring imply keeping myself available so a guy can ask me out up until the day before the date? To me that felt inconsiderate, but to him, he might have been upset because he intended to ask me out, but I had already made plans. So allow me to reiterate once and for all: the purpose of mirroring — which is to say, reacting to his advances instead of making advances of your own — is to avoid chasing the cute guy. It is for anxious, insecure women who always find themselves propping up relationships with ambivalent men by texting, calling and making plans. Your situation, Melinda, was different. A girl needs a few days to plan what to wear! This guy was interested in you. When am I going to see you again? How about a picnic on Sunday?

Been seeing a guy since August. Saw him on Friday and we made tentative plans for Sunday todayand he said he would let me know as he is helping a friend move out as they live together and are best friends. Should I tentative plans dating angry and show it or? But should I feel this way, or is this fine and just move on and not bring it up?

It is just becaues my tentative plans dating said I should feel upset about this and talk to him about tentative plans dating seeing as he said he would let me know… But tentative to me means no plans so I was busy anyway. I would ignore him the next time he gets in touch with you. Even though they were tentative, he said he would. In the future when a guy does something inconsiderate, never reward their behavior with something nice like sending the pic.

That seems pretty harsh to me. I just rmemever lane on this forum saying tentative plans means no plans and to not really pay attention if they say that stuff. Just observe for now to see if this might be a pattern with him…. So you think that it is OK article source behave the way he did just because the plans were tentative?

Tentative plans mean he would let you know either way. He should have contacted you. Why are you asking how you should feel? We all live in the same world. How do you behave towards people when they do something rude to you? Treat him the same way. Do not lecture him though, he is tentative plans dating a teenager. He knows what he is doing, people always do. Why do so many women think that men are not humans? They live where we live, go to school, go to work, have bosses, etc.

We all know what normal social conduct is, so stop fooling yourself. Rudeness is a dealbreaker for me because it is so easy not to be rude.

Rude guys are better be avoided. Find someone who is not rude. A good polite guy will treat you with respect and consideration. It is true Maria… He has not answered my text of the photo i sent either, and he has been on the whatsapp. Thank you, I just watched it, very insightful and interesting to see he does not agree at all with flakiness. He has not even answered my message and he has been online again. So what did you learn that could apply to your situation? Name required :.

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